Radical Collaboration: Attitude and Intention

I’ve been reading the book Radical Collaboration and learned today about the different “zones” we choose to be in. I must say that as much as I desire to be in the green zone that’s what I aspire to be. But in reality I think I’m more in all of the zones at different times. The green zone is where I hope to strive to be, most of the time. Here are the different zones to explore:

我一直在閱讀 Radical Collaboration 這本書，今天了解了我們選擇進入的不同“區域”。我必須說，儘管我希望進入綠色區域，這正是我渴望成為的。但實際上，我認為我在不同時間更多地處於所有區域。大多數時候，綠色區域是我希望努力的地方。以下是要探索的不同區域：

A person in the green zone

  • Takes responsibility for the circumstances of his or her life

  • Seeks to respond non-defensively

  • Is not easily threatened psychologically

  • Attempts to build mutual success

  • Seeks solution rather than blame

  • Uses persuasion rather than force

  • Can be firm, but not rigid, about his or her interests

  • Thinks both short tern and long term

  • Is interested in other points of view

  • Welcomes feedback

  • Sees conflict as a natural part of the human condition

  • Talks calmly and directly about difficult issues

  • Accepts responsibility for the consequences of his or her actions

  • Continuously seeks deeper levels of understanding

  • Communicates a caring attitude

  • Seeks excellence rather than victory

  • Listens well

 

A person in the Red Zone

  • Blames others for the circumstances of his or her life

  • Feels threatened and wronged

  • Responds defensively

  • Triggers defensiveness in others

  • Is rigid, reactive and righteous

  • Uses shame, blame and accusations

  • Is unaware of the climate of antagonism he or she creates

  • Has low awareness of blind spots

  • Doesn’t seek or value feedback

  • Sees others as problem or enemy

  • Sees conflict as a battle and seeks to win at any cost

  • Doesn’t let go or forgive

  • Communicates high levels of disapproval and contempt

  • Focuses on short-term advantages and gain

  • Feels victimized by different points of view

  • Is black/white, right/wrong thinking

  • Doesn’t listen effectively

 

A person in the pink zone

  • Sees conflict as a battle and seeks to avoid it at any cost

  • Blames others for the circumstances of his or her life

  • Feels threatened and wronged

  • Responds defensively

  • Triggers frustration and anxiety in others

  • Is passively rigid, reactive, and righteous

  • Uses behind-the-scenes shaming, blaming and accusations

  • Is unaware of the climate of frustration and confusion he or she creates

  • Has low awareness of blind spots

  • Is fearful of seeking feedback

  • Sees others as the problem or enemy

  • Can be superficially nice but doesn’t let go or forgive

  • Hides their disapproval and contempt

  • Focuses on short-term stress reduction and avoidance of conflict

  • Feels victimized and underappreciated a lot of the time

  • Can be very wishy-washy in expressing their point of view

  • Doesn’t listen effectively

Collaboration, PersonalWynne Leung